Letting Go Of The Past To Heal From Your Divorce

God tells us in Isaiah 46:3-4 NIV “I have cared for you since you were born. Yes, I carried you before you were born. I will be your God throughout your lifetime, until your hair is white with age. I made you, and I will care for you.” He’s got you!

If you are ready to change your situation, then it’s time to change what you are thinking and saying about your situation. Words have power! If you want a different harvest in your life, you have to change the seeds you are planting. Start planting words of faith and victory. Plant life giving words! Develop healthy, supportive, faith based friends, get involved with helping others...right now we have more needs in our communities than ever before! Great opportunities to help others who are suffering abound!

In Galatians 2:20 NIV Paul says that “I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” We have been crucified with Christ. Christ took all of our sins, hurts, wounds, addictions, and heartache with Him on the Cross.

In Order To Heal You Have To Let Go

Everything! There was nothing left behind! Jesus had no sin but yet allowed Himself to be the sacrifice for all of this and more so that we could walk in freedom and victory! Our past, old mindsets, old behaviors, all were taken care of on the Cross. We only need to repent and renounce partnering with them and we truly are free! What would you like to leave on the Cross that has been keeping you stuck in the past, reliving old hurts and pain? I encourage you to leave it all with Jesus now. The only thing you have to lose is your hurt, pain, and regret!

First, I encourage you to pray this prayer to ask Father Go to show you your feelings of hurt, pain, etc. They may be wounds from your divorce, the years you were growing up, or some other time in your life. Father God, I ask you to open the places in my heart that have been wounded in my past. I ask that you shine Your healing Light on them now so that I can renounce them and leave them on the Cross. I thank you for Jesus’ sacrifice on the Cross so that I am able to walk in freedom. I chose to leave these things with You and the Cross, Father. Thank you for loving me so much! Amen!

What Would You Put On Your Cross?

Now I would like you to write the things that you are hearing, seeing, or feeling on the Cross below. Take your time so that you get as many things on there as come to your mind. I’ll put a couple on the cross to help you get started.

Take as much room as you need to get everything on there. When I first did this I had over 50 things written on the cross! After you have written everything you’ve heard, seen, or felt that has inhibited your heart and caused pain, I encourage you to renounce all of those things by saying this prayer.

Use This Prayer To Let Go

Father God, I renounce partnering with the spirit of rejection and shame. I no longer have any agreements with these spirits because they are not of You. They must leave me now, never to return to me, in the name of Jesus! (Say this with authority!)

Repeat this prayer for every one of the things you have written on the Cross. Once you’re done, I want you to ask Father God what He has in exchange for you. “Father, what do You have in exchange for my feelings of rejection? What do You have for me in exchange for my feeling of shame?” Continue on until you have gotten an exchange for everything you have renounced. As you do this write down what you see, feel or hear around the outside of the Cross in a different color of ink.

Romans 3:24 “Being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus.” KJV As a result of the work done on the cross I am a FREE, new creation and so are you! Don’t take any of the things you renounced back so you can maintain the freedom and victory God intended for you! Phil. 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” KJV If you feel some of these hurts or feelings coming back again, just renounce them again and ask Father God what He has in exchange for you. I know it will be an awesome gift!

Now that you’ve done this exercise, what does living in Christ mean to you? Take a few minutes and write it down in your journal.

Taking it a step further than writing in a journal is to surround yourself with a community of people moving down this path of healing. Talking through emotions helps us process so they don’t control us.

I also know it can be scary to take that first step out of our comfort zone, so let’s get you moving in the right direction by getting yourself a free copy of my book Destiny After Divorce. This won’t solve everything. But that isn’t the point. We can’t reach the end destination if we never take the first step.

Take your first step to healing by grabbing a copy of Destiny After Divorce

Yours in healing,


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