Divorced A Narcissist?
Did You Divorce a Narcissist?
Some common traits of a Narcissist
1. Frequently lie about or exaggerate things
2. Rarely admitted flaws and were highly aggressive when criticized
3. Narcissists enjoy getting away with violating rules and social norms
4. They love to control and manipulate
5. Do anything they can to make themselves appear powerful and important
6. They never accept responsibility when things go wrong
7. Narcissists are bullies.
Did you find at least 3 characteristics that your former spouse had? Then he or she may have been a narcissist.
Here are some things you may have realized, now that you're divorced
You may still be confused and paralyzed. Narcissists are masters at using criticism, mood swings, gaslighting, and double standards to extort their energy needs. And they know how to hide behind a charming public image to make you look like the crazy one.
You may still doubt yourself. It’s only natural that you will continue to question your own reality, judgment, and ability to recognize the enemy again. Narcissists work insidiously. They chip away at your confidence, convictions, and self- esteem one insult, denial, and lie at a time. Don’t be surprised if you don’t trust yourself to “do life” on your own yet.
Your former spouse isn’t going to change. Just because you are no longer married doesn’t mean that life after divorce from a narcissist is going to be total freedom. Narcissists never stop hungering for power, control, and self-gratification. So don’t be surprised if your former spouse tries to keep you down by making threats, sending abusive emails, or spreading lies about you.
Unless others live it, they probably won’t understand it. Psychological and emotional abuse can be challenging for people to understand. No one who has lived it would ever ask, “Why didn’t you just leave?” Those who have lived in a psychological war zone know just how convoluted and debilitating the experience is. They may not be able to put defining words to it, but they get it.
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