Setting healthy boundaries and knowing how to stick to them can help you heal and rebuild your life after your divorce.
As you rebuild your life post-divorce, you will experience a roller coaster of emotions. One day you might feel relieved, the next – angry or confused.
It’s important to remember that all of your feelings are valid. Going through ups and downs is normal. And figuring out how to rebuild your life afterwards might seem impossible. But when you have the right “framework” or boundaries it can make the process a lot easier.
You can do it.
Divorce is never easy. It’s a difficult and emotionally charged process that can leave you feeling lost, scared, and alone. However, by taking care of yourself and setting healthy boundaries, you can start to rebuild your life in a way that feels good for you.
If something or someone is stressful or pressuring you, walk away. Remind yourself that you have a right to say “no.”
Boundaries create a safe space for you to heal and begin again. They give you the power to control what you allow into your life, and to set limits on what you will tolerate.
One important note I want to point out. When I say walk away or say no that also doesn’t mean you don’t face the challenge in front of you. You can’t keep running away expecting a different outcome. So, don’t use that as a crutch and keep it in the context of removing yourself from toxic situations when you have a clear understanding of what is healthy for you and what isn’t.
Tips to setting healthy boundaries
Wanted to share a few insights with you that can be applied to your situation to make sure you don’t stay in a negative cycle and actually heal from this process.
1.Share expectations – This is a huge one as it can be a natural reaction to keep things from the other person. When all that does is hurt you. Be clear about what you expect from different aspects of communication to visiting. When all the expectations are out there are no surprises.
2.Create a healthy environment. That could be a living situation to where and how you talk to each other.
3.Keep your personal lives separate. It is no longer your responsibility to know your ex’s life and same of them to you.
4.Look for other outlets of support. It can be a natural reaction to want to go and look for support from your ex, but that can’t be the case anymore. It isn’t healthy for them or for you to keep putting that pressure on the current relationship level.
Take some time to think this through
So, if your divorce is recent, or even if it’s years old, take some time to consider what boundaries you need to set in order to create a life that feels good for you. Then follow through!
Setting boundaries can be hard, but it’s worth it. Because when you do, you’re giving yourself the gift of taking care of yourself. And that’s the first step to rebuilding your life and reclaiming your happiness.
If you need a little extra help to get started down this road you can always get access to my free healing guide. It is a great way to begin down this path and feel supported. As a bonus when you claim the free guide you will be added to my email newsletter when I provide even more support for you and bring you into our community.